Society can be a mean place. Others try to convince you that something is wrong with you if you don't follow the norm on major life events. According to the norm, everyone should graduate from high school, complete college, find a crappy job, get married, get a better job, have kids, struggle to keep your job, retire then die. When you step outside of this timeline or heaven forbid, skip one of these life events all together, something must be wrong with you.
You see I skipped the marriage part. It's not that I don't believe in it, but I didn't give it a level of importance that others around me did. I focused mainly on my education and then career during my 20s and 30s while knowing in the back of my mind that I would be a mother some day.
It takes an act of bravery to step outside the norm and say, I want to be a mother right now in my 40s even without a partner. When I hear my parenting friends complain that their partner is out of town for a few days and that they feel like a single parent, they finally get a glimspe into my world. I am always on deck, on call and ready to cancel everything to be there for my son. It's the best yet scariest job I have ever had.
Now I am working on another act of bravery, writing about my story to support other single people as they head down this path. It's not for everyone and people should know what they are getting into before they start. That's why I want to write down this story and hand it out. I don't want to scare others way, but there are challenges involved that you never expected.
The book, Mommy Shark, is mostly written ready to hand to an editor, but I am now raising funds in Kickstarter. This is the phase that I HATE. Asking others to believe in you and your project enough to back it with money is tricky.
Please consider backing me. Thank you.