You may not agree with what I have say next, but that's OK. I don't believe it's a parent's responsibility to dictate what is in a child's heart. My son has the responsibility of choosing his faith, career, lover and how he purses his happiness. It's my responsibility to help him learn how to take care of himself, kindness and respect. I know those words are easier to type than put in motion, but I hope to do my best.
I mention this because I saw this light go off in my son this weekend. It was like he was visiting a place he knew already and it was of all places, soccer tots.
My son is an active kid. No matter how tired he is, he whines a bit when he has to go inside. He is fearless at every playground he encounters. I wanted to find him some kind of outlet that would allow him to be active and learn new skills.
At a music festival several weeks ago, my son saw a small family kicking a soccer ball and they let him kick a few times. He loved it and for someone who just learned how to kick, he was better than I expected. So when his godmother suggested soccer tots for him, I didn't think twice.
This Saturday was the first meeting of soccer tots. It was 20 toddlers in an indoor soccer field with small soccer balls and toys. Some kids stayed close to their parents. Once my son entered the room, he felt instantly in his element. I put our stuff down and he was off.
I don't know what career or hobby pursuits my son will follow, but I could tell from that experience that my son loves to MOVE and move fast. Running from one side of the field to the other side thrilled him with delight. He did not follow directions well, but hey, he's 20 months old and some of the words he heard he does not know. Yes, he tried to eat one of the cones on the field, but hey, he's 20 months old and his teeth always ache. Of course he held the ball in his hands a lot, but hey, he's 20 months old and he does not know the rules of the game.
As a parent, it's not my responsibility to pressure my son to become a soccer star. He dictates that. I am simply the driver.