My son's godmother is one of my best friends. I have known her since 1996. We have been through the stressful opening of a TV channel, owning a video production company, client relationships with unrealistic deadlines, heartbreaking miscarriages, wimpy cries on the phone and email during a long adoption wait and baby sickness. She knows me better than most and can call me out when needed. Who better to trust my favorite person if someone happens to me?
Single parents become the singular focus of their child at times. We get all of the cuddles and hugs, but we are also the only person who really knows our children. All people come with quirks - favorite sayings, hobbies, strategies, etc. It can sometimes be scary when I think that I am in the only person who knows how to prep his bed before he goes to sleep. All those little half-spoken sayings, I can get and address before he reaches the other half of the sentence. That's why choosing the right Godmother is mission critical.
My son's Godmother just spent a week with us at the beach and she knows all of this tricks. I sat there watching her read EVERY book I brought for him most nights in sheer delight. I could leave the room and she would whip up his favorite meal, convince him to stay focused to eat it and having him occupied with something in the room without asking for directions.
He adores her completely. On our first morning back from vacation waking in our own beds, he immediately wanted to know where she was and why she was not there. To some people, it might hurt your feelings to see your child long for someone else like this. Not me. Nope. This longing makes me feel safe knowing that someone other than me - GETS my son.
If you are a new parent, single or otherwise, heed this advice. Take the choice of a Godparent seriously. It's not just the person who will step in if something happens to you. It's an important adult relationship that your child will have outside of his/her parents.