I talked to my son last night before he went to sleep about energy. You see, my son has a lot of it and with his tall physique and strength, he can do some damage if he wanted. My son uses his energy well most of the time. He loves to show you how fast he can run and how much he can dig in the sandbox.
I want to believe that my son understood what I was trying to say, but I would ask him to explain what I said and a slightly different version would come out. So then I turned the focus on me. Everyone experiences anger and frustration, but you learn how to harness those feelings to channel them into something useful. In the morning before work, I run on the treadmill. I also meditate, take walks, talk to others and try to find something that makes me laugh. I explained to him my approach to those feelings. We practiced how he would approach his teacher if he was feeling this way and needed that time to himself. My goal was to help him to understand that these feeling are natural, but lashing out is never the right reaction.
But let's me honest here. I am not the best role model for using my energy. Sometimes when I get frustrated, I shout, I stomp my feet, I slam a door or I say things that I should not say. This experience of helping my son is making me focus on what I am doing as a person as well. My actions speak louder than my words. As my son tries to find the right approach for him, I have to use this opportunity to think about what I am demonstrating.