Since the start of August, I have been riding the stress roller coaster thanks to my parents. For different reasons, both of them had to move out of their individual houses fast. One parent had to go into rehab then Memory Care. Another parent refused to believe that the whole thing was happening fighting it every step of the way. Since my siblings are out of town, a lot of the physical errands have been mine. All of this started August 1st and it's now November 14th and I finally have my Dad's house on the market.
Why did I tell you all of this on a parenting blogs? Because stressed parents lead to stressed kids. My son is no exception. My son has spent a lot of weekend time without me. Cue the guilt then bring in the multiple attempts to make it up to him. "Sorry mom just spent two whole weekends away from you. Let's do something every minute of the day next week just the two of us. "
Every event. Every special occasion, I went overboard to try to make up for missing time with him. It was fun. We enjoyed ourselves but we also got completely worn out. I can't remember a weekend where our plans were to do nothing. I have been so stressed for so long that I find myself carrying my body differently. Even after a full night of sleep, people would tell me throughout the day how tired I look.
So, I HEREBY GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION to not do everything. We don't have to go to every event. I can nap during his nap time if I want. Sometimes chores don't have to get completed. If we need to leave an event early, dang it we are going to do it without a second thought. We deserve more time just to be without having to look at the clock for the next deadline. Playing matchbox cars in the floor with my son is a meaningful Saturday event.